Our leading relationship experts provide Couples Counseling and Sex Therapy conveniently located in the heart of Napa Valley.
Napa Valley Couples Therapy Center
What We Offer
We help people have healthy, loving and equitable relationships. All of our counselors are highly trained in working with relationship dynamics, communication, intimacy and attachment issues. Through Attachment-Based Couples & Sex Therapy, we create a safe environment that encourages stepping into the flow of emotional intimacy, love, communication and sexuality. Our San Francisco Bay Area & North Bay Couples Counselors and Sex Therapists work with both individuals and partners to assist folks heal erotic & body-based shame, while expanding their innate capacity for pleasure, intimacy, and sexual embodiment.
Our Napa Valley couples therapists offer an array of expert mental health services to help you manage relationship and intimacy issues. We also provide treatment for trauma, mood and anxiety issues. Our counselors specialize in couples counseling, relationship issues, and sex therapy. We also have a diverse team of wellness practitioners that can assist you with life and relationship coaching, holistic nutritional support and other health-based modalities to support you in your wellbeing.
We have put together a talented team of top-rated relationship therapists, who use the newest couples therapy modalities and cutting-edge treatments to enhance your relationship and communication.
Research confirms: without extra, specialized and intensive training in sex and relationship therapy, general therapists, marriage and family therapists, physicians, and even psychologists do not necessarily have the training or experience needed to help with the intimate and sexual problems that are experienced by 70% of clients. Complete, holistic help for issues related to sex and intimacy require a therapist be trained in cutting-edge attachment based couples and sex therapy modalities with general and sexology credentials for body, mind, and spirit.
Collectively, we have specialized training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Sex Therapy, Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy for Couples (AEDP), Somatic Experiencing (SE), Hakomi, Gestalt, Gottman Method and other leading modalities.
All of our clinicians have advanced degrees (doctorate and master level) in clinical psychology, as well as additional relationship therapy training. Our staff engages in on-going continuing education to maintain their expertise and knowledge.
At Napa Valley Couples Therapy Center, we believe we all have the capacity to deepen our self-awareness and heal our pain through a collaborative and transformative therapy relationship. As couples and marriage counselors, our focus is on helping you connect with your partner in a safe and loving context. An experienced couples therapist will recognize your problematic patterns that often leave each partner feeling alone and disconnected. We can provide you with the insight and skills to break the cycle, so you can experience the relationship you want. Rather than relying on outdated coping strategies, our marriage counselors can help you learn how to relate to your partner.
We are pleased to provide mental health and wellness services in Napa Valley, St. Helena, Marin, San Francisco, Berkeley, Lafayette, Pleasant Hill, Walnut Creek and Oakland.
Our San Francisco Bay Area, North Bay Area & Napa Valley Relationship & Sex Therapists' approaches are A refined and customized combination of the most current research in the fields of affective neuroscience, sexuality & intimacy and human development with the art of psychotherapy.
1420 Third Street, Suite 10 Napa, CA 94559
M-F 9 am–9 pm
Sa 9 am–7 pm Su 9 am-7 pm
Speak Directly with our staff Weekdays 5 am-9pm & Weekends 9 am-6 pm
THE GOALS OF COUPLES COUNSELING
- Develop mutual goals for your relationship.
- Understand and appreciate personal similarities & differences.
- Explore life values, family values and personal goals.
- Explore your co-created sexuality.
- Cultivate mutual understanding of cultural differences.
- Identify your relationship strengths.
- Identify and alter negative communication patterns.
- Manage internal and external relationship stressors.
- Strengthen communication skills.
- Explore family of origin issues.
- Deepen Intimacy, trust and connection.
issues Sex therapy addresses
- Arousal & desire concerns
- Desire discrepancies within a couple
- Erectile dysfunction
- Absent or diminished interest in sex
- Performance anxiety
- Premature ejaculation
- Inability to orgasm
- Loss of libido
- Impact of miscarriage, loss and/or abortion on sex and sexuality
- Difficulties with climax such as delayed ejaculation
- Genital or pelvic pain, penetration difficulty, or other painful sex issues
- Development & deepening of emotional and sexual intimacy
- Sexuality during life transitions such as pregnancy, parenting, menopause, aging, health issues etc.
- Impact of infertility on sex and sexuality
- Perinatal and postpartum sexuality
- Open or poly relationships
- Sexuality & chronic pain or illness
- Emerging sexual identities
- Alternative lifestyle and sexuality (Polyamory, Kink, BDSM etc)
- Sexuality & disability
- History of sexual trauma, childhood sexual abuse or rape
- Extra-marital affairs
- Diversity of sexual expression
- Socio-cultural factors associated with sexuality
- LGBTQ and gender identity issues
- Learn how to discuss sex and desire with your partner
- Learn how to deepen attachment bond through intimate sex
Call us at (707) 339-8419
MEET OUR TEAM
At Napa Valley Couples Therapy Center our highly skilled couples counselors, sex therapists, psychologists, life coaches and holistic health care practitioners have Doctoral and Masters degrees in addition to advanced training in cutting edge attachment-based relationship therapy and other relevant modalities.
DR. ADRIAN SCHARFETTER, PHD, MFT
San Francisco Bay Area & Napa Valley Couples Counselor, Sex Therapist, Professor of Human Sexuality at California Institute of Integral Studies and Individual LGBTQ/Queer Psychotherapist specializing in:
Holistic psychotherapy, sex therapy, and integration of the body and mind, issues around sex and sexual functioning, trauma, abuse, and spiritual emergence for both the individual and couples in the San Francisco Bay area. Bringing depth and spiritual awareness back to sex and sexual healing.
DR. ADRIAN SCHARFETTER, PHD, MFT is NOW ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS IN NAPA VALLEY
Sunny Sabbini, MFT
Napa Valley & East Bay Couples and Sex Therapist, Marriage Counselor & Individual Psychotherapist, Interpersonal Dynamics Coach for Stanford University MBA Program.
I love helping partners resolve and transcend conflicts, create shared visions, and build more love, trust and respect in their relationships, and make an impact on the world via their relationship and business enterprise. I help them transform conflict into connection, create powerful alignment between values and actions, and generate more momentum to achieve their goals. I’ve helped many partners create an inspiring personal and professional partnership. I fascinated and awe-inspired by how we can transform ourselves, our relationships, and the world around us; and I think we need to do both throughout our lives.
I am licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist, MFC 49634. I have Couples Therapy Specific Training with the Couples Institute, Couples Therapy Specialty Training (CIP), and Tavistock Group Relations Conference (GREX). My clinical experience includes (designing and) running the Family Program at Bayside Marin, an addiction treatment program. I’ve created in clinical training intern program and trained other therapists
Dr. Rhea Orion,PhD, MFT,CST
San Francisco Bay Area Napa Valley Certified Sex Therapist, Author, Couples Therapist and Relationship Expert.
Dr. Rhea Orion is a licensed marriage and family therapist (CA #MFC 51696) with a doctorate in psychology from Saybrook University in California, and a Sex Therapist certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. She is a Family and Consumer Scientist (aka home economist) with a degree in child and family studies from the University of New Hampshire. In addition she is a “spiritual emergencies” counselor as defined by the American Psychological Association.
Dr. Orion is an experienced sex and drug educator for teens and adults. She has been additionally certified by the Arthritis Foundation and the International Sports Medicine Association to help with positive management, and to lead support and information groups, for people living with arthritis, disabilities, and chronic illness.
Dr. Rhea Orion,PhD, MFT,CST is NOW ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS
AMY BOUVIN, LCSW
San Francisco & East Bay Couples Counselor & Sex Therapist. Amy Bouvin, LCSW is a attachment-based San Francisco couples therapist and sex therapist. She works with individuals and partners to facilitate deeper awareness, emotional intimacy and connection.
"I am passionate about social justice and believe in the innate potential of all people to realize themselves at their best. I have worked in social services and direct care with youth and families experiencing multiple stressors and challenges for over 6 years. This has inspired my path into private practice and my interest in healthy secure attachment, intimacy and sexuality. I specialize in sexual dysfunction and sexual therapy, and can work with individuals, couples or adolescents experiencing sexual challenges, gender identity issues, LGBTQ connected difficulties and sexual identity discovery."
Anya de Montigny, DHS
Dr. Anya a Sexuality Expert with over 20 years experience working with individuals, couples & groups. She teaches adult sexuality education classes, workshops and retreats in the Bay Area and beyond and has a private clinical sexology practice, specializing in individual and couple's sexual heath and wellness. Dr. Anya has her DHS - Doctor of Human Sexuality - degree from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, is certified as a Sex Educator, Clinical Sexologist, Sex Coach, Somatic Sex Educator and Holistic Health Counselor and is trained in the Gottman Method Couple's Therapy (Level 1) and Restorative Justice & Diversity Education. Dr. Anya teaches Affirmative Consent, Boundaries and Personal Safety workshops for students in schools, colleges and universities. Dr. Anya sees individuals and couples along the gender and sexuality spectrum and invites straight and LGBTQI into her practice.
Michael Gelbart, LCSW SF Bay AreaCouples Counselor & Individual Psychotherapist
"I am intuitive, holistic and integrative in my therapeutic approach, applying the method that best serves you, your needs and goals. I adapt to form interventions that are responsive to who you are and what you bring in. I work pragmatically, with somatic awareness and a depth psychological perspective, to help you emotionally balance, deepen insight and become more effective interpersonally."
Michael offers a diverse set of modalities and methods, fit to your needs, including: Holistic Assessment: Physical, Emotional, Psychological, Relational, Situational and Soulful Depth Inquiry, Psychotherapy and Transformative Soul-Work Life Direction Coaching and Consultation Groups, Seminars, Workshops and Trainings Short, Medium and Long Term Treatment
Dr. has a Doctorate and a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis on attachment and relationship dynamics. She also has a Bachelors degree in Human Sexuality & Psychology and a BFA in Studio Arts. She is a published author in the field of gender and sexuality and also contributes to various blogs. She is currently writing a self-help book to help couples have deeper sexual intimacy.
She is trained in Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy for Couples (AEDP), Sex Therapy, Somatics Experiencing (SE), Child Therapy, Art Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), EMDR, certified in Clinical Hypnotherapy and is working towards her certification in sex therapy through The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and California Institute of Integral Studies.
Areas of particular passion to Dr. are all things related to healthy attachment relationships, parenting and pregnancy issues, LGBTQ issues, intimacy & sex, art therapy and helping survivors heal sexual trauma.
She is a registered psychological assistant employed by clinical psychologist,
Victoria King, MFT Napa Valley Couples Therapy Center's Administrative Director.
Oakland, Hayward & Berkeley Sex Therapist, Couples Counselor
Victoria is trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, both highly effective, evidence based treatment for couples counseling and therapy. Additionally she has certifications in Sex Therapy through (CIIS) California Institute of Integral Studies and in the Somatica Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching.
As a Relationship Therapist who is also a Sex Therapist, Victoria is able to address issues around sex and intimacy that often goes unaddressed during traditional Couples Counseling. Some of Victoria's expertise in Sex and Relationship therapy is in addressing challenges associated with low libido/low sex drive, differing/mismatched desires, erectile dysfunction, and inability to orgasm. She operates from a sex positive, nonjudgemental and shame-free perspective.
Danielle Goldman,MFT Child Psychotherapist
I believe it’s incredibly important and powerful to give children space to be themselves, to create a strong rapport, and empower them to make choices that will help them lead a more balanced emotional life. Knowledge about oneself in the world as a unique emotional being is a powerful tool, especially when learned young. In my practice with children, I use a combination of Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Attachment Play Therapy, and Psycho-education to achieve these goals.
I work with a wide variety of emotional difficulties, including familial transitions, trauma, bereavement, and social difficulties. In a warm, safe, and dynamic environment, I support children in mastering their feelings and cope with life’s challenges.
KRISTEL ALLEN, MFT
Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, Kristel's orientation is primarily Somatic, however your work together will keep in mind your unique goals and set of life circumstances that brings you to seek therapy at this time. She hold a Bachelors of Science from the University of California Berkeley in Psychology with a minor in Philosophy, and received her Masters at the California Institute of Integral Studies in Somatic Psychotherapy.
Kristel's therapeutic work is engaging and relational at its heart, and aims to help people body themselves with a sense of security and vitality so to enhance the connections they generate within their relationship(s).
JACQUELINE LUMER, MFT
We all face challenges in our lives that can benefit from the guidance of a compassionate therapist. These times can be an opportunity to expand our thinking and heal our past. I invite you to begin a better way to connect with yourself, your partner and family to improve the quality of your life. When life's transitions and circumstances are addressed in therapy, my client's feel better equipped to make change. I provide the tools and interventions that are specific to your needs and draw from an integrative approach for healing of the self and in context of relationship. When we heal and understand ourselves, we can better interact in the world.
I tailor my approach to best suit my clients' needs with a collaborative approach, whether I am doing couples counseling, sex therapy or trauma work with individuals.
Brendan Hall, MFT
I love helping singles and couples transform their relationships and sex life.
I have a passion for helping beautiful individuals like yourself grow and experience more satisfaction in their life. Since I was 14, I have been caring for and working with others to facilitate social justice and mind body spirit health.
I have a Masters in Teaching and Masters in Counseling Psychology. I started off professionally as a Kindergarten teacher in San Francisco for 6 years. I transitioned into Holistic Coaching and Energy Psychology (EFT or Tapping) in 2009.
DR. ANNICE ORMISTOM, PSYD
Dr. Ormiston has been working in the field of psychology since 2003. She received her doctorate and master’s in psychology from the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA and her undergraduate degree in psychology from Barnard College in New York City. She has worked in outpatient, intensive outpatient, residential, community mental health, and university counseling settings over the last ten years. In addition to working with couples, she also enjoys working with individuals and has additional interests in the areas of identity, the body, gender, disordered eating, and trauma.
BETH NELSEN, MA
Beth is a life coach, activist, world traveler, lecturer and an internationally acclaimed award winning documentary filmmaker. Her work juxtaposes her personal passions and experiences pertaining to social impact, Native American and Latinx cultural identity, LGBTQ rights, adoption issues and authentic storytelling.
In her coaching, Beth helps individuals and families get in touch with their personal narratives, develop and meet personal or creative goals, and explore their personal power as people of color, adoptees and/or LGBTQIA+ identified folks. She assists parents in understanding the perspective of their queer or adopted children. Beth also helps people with artistic blocks, personal identity issues and other matters of the heart.
AMY JO GODDARD, MA
As a Sexual Empowerment expert and thought leader, Amy Jo Goddard has guided thousands of people towards the wholeness and fulfillment they want, sexually and in other aspects of their lives. She earned her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education from New York University and has over 20 years of experience in the sexuality field. As a renowned speaker and teacher, Amy Jo travels to colleges, communities, and conferences teaching classes and offering keynotes that help people to connect the dots around sexuality and money, expand their creativity, grow their confidence and learn to be bigger in their relationships, in business, and in the world. She delivered her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power” in March, 2014 in Napa Valley, was named one of GO! Magazine’s “100 Women We Love” in 2010 and one of Kinkly’s ”100 Sex Blogging Superheroes” in 2013.
DR. MIGUEL HIDALGO-BARNES, PSYD
Dr. Hidalgo-Barnes is a licensed clinical psychologist, practicing in North Berkeley, Napa and Oakland. He specializes in men's issues and helps men to have better relationships. He also works with couples and individuals. .
Dr. Hidalgo-Barnes has worked extensively with both mild and severe mental illness and believes all people are treatable and all people are capable of change.
SARI MELINE, M.A., LIFE COACH
Coaching with me happens primarily by telephone. I prefer this to in-person or video chat because when we are in front of someone, we carry a facade - no matter how small. On the phone, it’s just your voice and my voice, and in my experience, that works best for our authenticity together.
In between our phone calls is when all the really productive, juicy work happens. This is when you put rubber to road, and carry out the homework and inquiry assignments that you’ll discover on each call. During the time that I’m your coach, you'll have unlimited access to me by email. I welcome check-ins, questions, challenges, feedback, and updates as often as you’d like.
ALEX HOEPLINGER, MFTI
Alex is a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern and practices holistic, relational, and in-depth psychotherapy to provide you lasting mental health. He works with teens, adults, couples, and siblings through difficult life transitions by helping them explore the meaning behind their patterns, thoughts, feelings, and means of relating to create the space for healing and change within.
His training was grounded in an existential-humanistic approach inspired by relational, psychodynamic, and experiential therapeutic philosophies.
Heather Hilton-Melancon -LM, CPM, Doula
In 2009 I enrolled in the Midwifery College of Utah and started my formal Midwifery apprenticeship. I have been attending and assisting births ever since. My training has allowed me to work with many different midwives, in many different settings. In the spring of 2012 I had the honor of traveling to Haiti to volunteer at a high volume Birth Center. In 2013 I became a NARM certified Midwife and California Licensed Midwife. I have been working at PachaMama Midwifery serving the HomeBirth community of Napa and surrounding areas since 2011.
In addition to being a Licensed Home Birth Midwife, Birth Doula, and Childbirth Educator, I also offer breastfeeding assistance and placenta encapsulation services.
Dr. AVA, PhD
Ava received training in individual, couple, and group therapy, and participates in on-going consultation in these three disciplines. She has clinical training in AEDP for Couples Therapy. She holds a masters degree in clinical psychology and is a PhD in Clinical Psychology. She offers relationship and sexuality coaching, as well as women-wellness coaching.
DR. EMILY GARNER, PSYD
Dr. Garner treats adults and youth for individual, couple and family therapy at our integrative health clinic. She has over 5 years of experience serving a wide range of clients with particular exposure to multicultural youth and families, and adults in group therapy. She has a keen interest in hypnotherapy after an 80-hour certification in this modality, and uses related tools to help clients work toward managing and reducing anxiety, among other treatment goals.
CHINA ROSE ZAMORA, NTP, CCH
In 2009 I was certified as a nutritional therapist. I had learned a lot about holistic nutrition over the years, but I was looking to gain the deepest understanding possible. I found the program I was seeking with the Nutritional Therapy Association. They taught me how to discover each client’s individual health needs through both in depth consultation and physical assessment.
My most recent training has been in holistic approaches to hormonal imbalance. When I began to learn about the intricacies of male and female hormones a light went on! I was immediately intrigued because I had found a way that I could support my clients on a deeper level.
AJ ZAMORA, CPT
After more than twenty years in this field, I advise professional athletes, public education, and support both naturopathic and medical doctors as a nutritional supplement consultant.
I’ve always loved being active. At any given time I was out climbing rocks or trees, surfing, rafting, hiking, snowboarding, or rollerblading. Throughout my life several of my loved ones have been unwell or clinically obese. My goal was to inspire them and help them learn how to take care of themselves. While gathering as much knowledge as I could to help them, my passion eventually turned into a lifestyle, and then eventually into my profession as a personal trainer and wellness coach. I was certified by the American Council on Exercise (ACE) and I am currently pursuing a Masters in Kinesiology with a focus on exercise science, wellness, & nutrition.
Tom Kessler, MFT
As a therapist, I bring my education, life experience and clinical training to help guide our work. I combine these powerful tools with a willingness to suspend judgment, think creatively, and remain truly engaged as we work toward helping you to develop new perspectives and skills that move you toward creating the life you want.
My work with couples draws upon my experience utilizing evidence- based practices developed by John Gottman, Gary Chapman, Dan Wiles And Sue Johnson.
Abby Volk Neuberg, MFT
San Francisco Castro Couples & Marriage Counselor, Sex Therapist & Trauma EMDR Individual Therapist.
My passion is working with people healing from trauma. I believe that you are always on a path towards growth and self-realization, and therapy can be a place for guidance, clarity, and empowerment. I am an engaged and compassionate therapist who creates a comfortable place to share thoughts that may feel shameful or insignificant. I also believe that therapy can be fun, exciting, and freeing.
I hold a safe place for you even when you feel you cannot trust others and often place your deepest desires last. My passion is to help you dissolve the stories that you learned about yourself and the world, which stop you from having the confidence and self-worth that you know you deserve to feel.
Most importantly, I believe that therapy is a place to enhance your personal strengths and grow your capacity to feel happiness, contentment, and personal meaning.